"I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better". Plutarch

Who the hell is Plutarch? was the first thing I said to myself when I read this quote. Turns out, according to Wikipedia, he was a Greek biographer, essayist and priest born in 46 AD - not necessarily part of pop culture, but I really liked what he had to say.

I've had a lot of friends over the years; still do. Some are gone by choice, sometimes mine; sometimes theirs, but the thing about that is they're still a friend. Maybe not currently but that doesn't change the fact that for a period of time, we were. Probably won't "re-friend", I don't know, about 10 of them, not because I'm holding on to anger or that I'm bitter, it's just, sometimes, relationships run their course, and we learn what we need to learn from someone and then their time is up.

Plutarch's quote got me to thinkin about my friendships - both old and new . Over the years, what I have sought in friendships has changed. I've gone from being someone who wanted to be surrounded by "yes men" and "yes woman", to someone who wants people around me who have their own ideas, beliefs, thoughts and ways of doing things. I want people who call me out on my life when asked. Why? Because I learn so much more. Have come to find life with "yes" people rather stagnating. Ultimately, having people around who are always saying agreeing with me and not questioning - kissing my butt - is really boring.

For me, life is meant to be lived large and that means doing new things, trying new things, learning new things, meeting new people and exploring both inward and outward adventures, and I find that to pretty much be a solo gig.

Thing is, it's a solo gig for everyone.

Enjoy!