"It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious". Oscar Wilde

Ain't it the truth. And they can rapidly move from one to the other, usually, toward tedious! And one would think the older we get, the more quickly we'd be able to spot someone who's gonna make the jump to tedious but, alas, not so much so. I've come to find those who are most charming, tend to be the most dishonest; not in a thievery kind of way but they're not honest with themselves and if they're not honest with themselves, then how can they be honest with others?

Lack of honesty - very tedious.

Like Mr. Wilde, I try really hard not to judge people as either good or bad choosing instead, to see their behavior as either appropriate or inappropriate. Why? Because I hope for the same in return.

Surprise, I'm not perfect. Yes,I know, that comes as a shock to most of you, but I've done a few not so good things, here and there along the way. Okay, well, maybe more than just a few - I have had 51 years to play around with after all!

Here's the thing. We're all inherently good. We all have different life experiences. We all make mistakes. We all have the potential to learn and grow. We all want to be validated. We all want compassion. We all want to be loved; yet, we don't necessarily know how to get this accomplished so I'll go ahead and tell yuh.

The way to get 'er done, is to start with yourself. Learn from your mistakes; forgive yourself; validate and believe in who you are and want to become; treat yourself with compassion (and respect) and, above all, love yourself!

In doing so, you'll be amazed at how wonderful the world truly is. Like begets like; love begets love...pretty amazing concept.