Yes,I know, hard to believe, but it's true; I was born with THE gift and before you ask, no, I don't do weddings, birthdays, confirmations or Bar Mitzvahs; however, I wouldn't turn down Oprah if she came uh callin'.
And don't ask me for lottery numbers or when you're going to meet the man or girl of your dreams; there's no cheapening of my talent happening here!
For the most part,sorry, but ye laymen don't understand. Serving a higher purpose is far more difficult than it appears. The ability to see the future ascends from the deepest recesses of my soul.
There's no turning my "gift" on and off, and there's no telling when it will appear.
Last week, for example, I was in line at the grocery store and had just loaded all my groceries on to the conveyor belt, when the cashier gave the man ahead of me his total. The man then reached into his pocket for his wallet and WHAM! it hit me - out of nowhere really, this overwhelming sense of "knowing" came upon me, and I knew, I just knew in that moment, I'd known before him that he'd come to Ralph's to buy groceries because why else would he be standing there without money or ATM card in-hand as his items were scanned and bagged?
Hard to believe, amazing even, that I knew before him but, obviously, there's no denying I have the "gift".
And then just the other day, I was on the freeway headed to work when the drivers ahead of me, like Moses parting the Red Sea, were changing lanes. As I came up behind the much slower, moving car, once again, WHAM! It hit me, and I just knew the driver was talking on the phone and, sure enough, I was right!
Good thing for me, when I have one of my higher consciousness moments, my eyes don't roll into the back of my head, because then my "gift" would be far more noticeable to the general public and then reality TV would be beggin' me to do a show and then I'd become this mega-celebrity who could no longer casually go into Ralph's and be wowed by my own, magnificent gift.
I'm a humble man.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
"There are some people who live in a dream world,and there are some who face reality, and then there are those who turn one into the other". Douglas H. Everett
Turning dreams into reality, now there's a concept! And, might I add, not necessarily an easy one. It takes a lot of hard work to follow our dreams and put ourselves out there in the real world holding our heads high and believing in where we want to go, but that's just it we do need to go!
Many of us get caught up in what we believe we're supposed to do as opposed to what we really WANT to do.
Recently, I had a conversation with a young man who works at my bank. How we got on the subject, I don't know, but we were talking about living and loving life and what he really wanted to do was to be a martial arts instructor instead of a bank employee; however, he didn't feel he could earn enough money as an instructor to some day buy a house.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH, is what goes on inside my head when I hear things like that - I just scream it! A house is a house is a house - a life is so far more important!
My suggestion to him, how about teaching martial arts leading to your own studio, leading to hiring others to teach as well leading to a chain of studios leading to buying a house. In other words, the best of both worlds by turning a dream into a reality.
Voila!
Turning dreams into reality, now there's a concept! And, might I add, not necessarily an easy one. It takes a lot of hard work to follow our dreams and put ourselves out there in the real world holding our heads high and believing in where we want to go, but that's just it we do need to go!
Many of us get caught up in what we believe we're supposed to do as opposed to what we really WANT to do.
Recently, I had a conversation with a young man who works at my bank. How we got on the subject, I don't know, but we were talking about living and loving life and what he really wanted to do was to be a martial arts instructor instead of a bank employee; however, he didn't feel he could earn enough money as an instructor to some day buy a house.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH, is what goes on inside my head when I hear things like that - I just scream it! A house is a house is a house - a life is so far more important!
My suggestion to him, how about teaching martial arts leading to your own studio, leading to hiring others to teach as well leading to a chain of studios leading to buying a house. In other words, the best of both worlds by turning a dream into a reality.
Voila!
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
"Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain. An occasional glance toward the summit keeps the goal in mind, but many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vantage point". Harold B. Melchart
In other words, live in the moment. And, yep, I know this is a hard thing to do, but we must try. There's so much to be missed if we live our lives worried about what happened yesterday or about what's going to happen tomorrow. The past is in the past, and there's nothing we can do about it other than using it to guide our future and tomorrow's not yet here and, who knows, it may never get here; there are no guarantees so do your best to live now!
Get lost in your life, absorb it, feel it and believe in it; it's the only one you have.
In other words, live in the moment. And, yep, I know this is a hard thing to do, but we must try. There's so much to be missed if we live our lives worried about what happened yesterday or about what's going to happen tomorrow. The past is in the past, and there's nothing we can do about it other than using it to guide our future and tomorrow's not yet here and, who knows, it may never get here; there are no guarantees so do your best to live now!
Get lost in your life, absorb it, feel it and believe in it; it's the only one you have.
Monday, April 5, 2010
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Friday, April 2, 2010
"The most ancient and natural way to acquire skills and knowledge is by hanging out with someone who's got them - watching, asking, helping". Barbara Sher
My writer friend, Karen, you know, the one whose life I've thus far spared, turned me on to Barbara Sher's book "Wishcraft" (How to get what you really want). It's an amazing, real, no-fluff guide to attaining one's goals.
Over the years, I've learned a lot reading books by Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Gary Zukov and Melody Beattie, among others, having found them incredibly enlightening; I can now add Barbara Sher to the list.
Ms. Sher's advice is pretty straight forward. I especially like chapter two "The Environment That Creates Winners". Without laying blame,she pretty much says the environment we grew up in helps decide whether our lives from the get-go will be winning ones. She offers up a series of questions that are really hard to answer. Well, not exactly hard to answer but definitely hard to hear yourself answer.
With respect to our upbringing, she asks:
1. Were you treated as though you had a unique kind of genius that was loved and respected?
2. Were you told that you could do and be anything you wanted -- and that you'd be loved and admired no matter hat it was?
3. Were you given real help and encouragement in finding out what you wanted to do -- and how to do it?
4. Were you encouraged to explore all your own talents and interests, even if the changed from day to day?
5. Were you allowed to complain when the going got rough, and given sympathy instead of being told to quit?
6. Were you bailed out when you got in over your head -- without reproach?
7. Were you surrounded by winners who were pleased when you won?
Sad as it may seem, I answered no to all of these questions.
At this stage of the game, I lay no blame; however, there was a time in my life when I did. Somewhere in my 30s, I realized I needed to stop blaming my parents for what they lacked and began to understand, like I, they, too, were human and couldn't teach what they didn't know.
Enter the notion of cyclical behavior and how it affects individuals and families. Enter the world of self-care and, guess what?, it's okay!
My writer friend, Karen, you know, the one whose life I've thus far spared, turned me on to Barbara Sher's book "Wishcraft" (How to get what you really want). It's an amazing, real, no-fluff guide to attaining one's goals.
Over the years, I've learned a lot reading books by Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Gary Zukov and Melody Beattie, among others, having found them incredibly enlightening; I can now add Barbara Sher to the list.
Ms. Sher's advice is pretty straight forward. I especially like chapter two "The Environment That Creates Winners". Without laying blame,she pretty much says the environment we grew up in helps decide whether our lives from the get-go will be winning ones. She offers up a series of questions that are really hard to answer. Well, not exactly hard to answer but definitely hard to hear yourself answer.
With respect to our upbringing, she asks:
1. Were you treated as though you had a unique kind of genius that was loved and respected?
2. Were you told that you could do and be anything you wanted -- and that you'd be loved and admired no matter hat it was?
3. Were you given real help and encouragement in finding out what you wanted to do -- and how to do it?
4. Were you encouraged to explore all your own talents and interests, even if the changed from day to day?
5. Were you allowed to complain when the going got rough, and given sympathy instead of being told to quit?
6. Were you bailed out when you got in over your head -- without reproach?
7. Were you surrounded by winners who were pleased when you won?
Sad as it may seem, I answered no to all of these questions.
At this stage of the game, I lay no blame; however, there was a time in my life when I did. Somewhere in my 30s, I realized I needed to stop blaming my parents for what they lacked and began to understand, like I, they, too, were human and couldn't teach what they didn't know.
Enter the notion of cyclical behavior and how it affects individuals and families. Enter the world of self-care and, guess what?, it's okay!
Thursday, April 1, 2010
"It is absurd to divide people into good and bad. People are either charming or tedious". Oscar Wilde
Ain't it the truth. And they can rapidly move from one to the other, usually, toward tedious! And one would think the older we get, the more quickly we'd be able to spot someone who's gonna make the jump to tedious but, alas, not so much so. I've come to find those who are most charming, tend to be the most dishonest; not in a thievery kind of way but they're not honest with themselves and if they're not honest with themselves, then how can they be honest with others?
Lack of honesty - very tedious.
Like Mr. Wilde, I try really hard not to judge people as either good or bad choosing instead, to see their behavior as either appropriate or inappropriate. Why? Because I hope for the same in return.
Surprise, I'm not perfect. Yes,I know, that comes as a shock to most of you, but I've done a few not so good things, here and there along the way. Okay, well, maybe more than just a few - I have had 51 years to play around with after all!
Here's the thing. We're all inherently good. We all have different life experiences. We all make mistakes. We all have the potential to learn and grow. We all want to be validated. We all want compassion. We all want to be loved; yet, we don't necessarily know how to get this accomplished so I'll go ahead and tell yuh.
The way to get 'er done, is to start with yourself. Learn from your mistakes; forgive yourself; validate and believe in who you are and want to become; treat yourself with compassion (and respect) and, above all, love yourself!
In doing so, you'll be amazed at how wonderful the world truly is. Like begets like; love begets love...pretty amazing concept.
Ain't it the truth. And they can rapidly move from one to the other, usually, toward tedious! And one would think the older we get, the more quickly we'd be able to spot someone who's gonna make the jump to tedious but, alas, not so much so. I've come to find those who are most charming, tend to be the most dishonest; not in a thievery kind of way but they're not honest with themselves and if they're not honest with themselves, then how can they be honest with others?
Lack of honesty - very tedious.
Like Mr. Wilde, I try really hard not to judge people as either good or bad choosing instead, to see their behavior as either appropriate or inappropriate. Why? Because I hope for the same in return.
Surprise, I'm not perfect. Yes,I know, that comes as a shock to most of you, but I've done a few not so good things, here and there along the way. Okay, well, maybe more than just a few - I have had 51 years to play around with after all!
Here's the thing. We're all inherently good. We all have different life experiences. We all make mistakes. We all have the potential to learn and grow. We all want to be validated. We all want compassion. We all want to be loved; yet, we don't necessarily know how to get this accomplished so I'll go ahead and tell yuh.
The way to get 'er done, is to start with yourself. Learn from your mistakes; forgive yourself; validate and believe in who you are and want to become; treat yourself with compassion (and respect) and, above all, love yourself!
In doing so, you'll be amazed at how wonderful the world truly is. Like begets like; love begets love...pretty amazing concept.
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